I’m reading the book Sexual Revolution: the Naked Truth about Moral Purity by Kris Vallotton right now and it’s powerful. In the chapter entitled, Rules of War he says,
“Ultimately, true success lies in your ability to manage your inner life, the secret kingdom that lives within you. It is really impossible to control your behavior long term unless you master your thoughts and subject them to the virtues that you have chosen to live by.”
“Your virtues train your attitudes, attitudes dictate your choices, choices decide your behavior, and your behavior determines your destiny. The way that this whole process begins is by giving your virtues authority over your thoughts. If your virtues do not govern what you allow yourself to think about, this process of reaching your destiny will be sabotaged. Trying to behave inside your virtues, without taking control of what movie is being shown in the theater room of your heart, simply won’t work.”
“Learning to control your thoughts, instead of allowing your thoughts to control you, is probably the single greatest secret to successful living.”
In the previous chapter, The Great Escape, Kris said,
“Once you decide who you are supposed to be, life is much simpler. All you have to do is live like you believe it. You’ll know when you really believe in your own destiny when you start treating yourself as you have envisioned yourself. You communicate to other people how to behave in your presence by the way you treat yourself.”
“If you treat yourself like you’re worthless, you are inviting other people to do the same. If you carry yourself like a prince or a princess, others will relate to you like one.”
“I believe that many times we just don’t have the guts to look in the mirror and ask ourselves the hard, soul-searching questions that lead to real change in our lives.”
We have to begin to really realize who we are allowing to have control in our lives and minds. Are my passions and desires (emotions and hormones) ruling my thoughts and heart or are my values and destiny the watermark for where my thoughts are directed and what my actions demonstrate?
Romans 8:5-6 in the Amplified version says,
5For those who are according to the flesh and are controlled by its unholy desires set their minds on and pursue those things which gratify the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit and are controlled by the desires of the Spirit set their minds on and seek those things which gratify the [Holy] Spirit.
6Now the mind of the flesh [which is sense and reason without the Holy Spirit] is death [death that comprises all the miseries arising from sin, both here and hereafter]. But the mind of the [Holy] Spirit is life and [soul] peace [both now and forever].
The ESV says it a bit more simply,
5For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. 6For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.
For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:4-5 NKJV) I love how the Message puts this verse, “The world is unprincipled. It’s dog-eat-dog out there! The world doesn’t fight fair. But we don’t live or fight our battles that way—never have and never will. The tools of our trade aren’t for marketing or manipulation, but they are for demolishing that entire massively corrupt culture. We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ. Our tools are ready at hand for clearing the ground of every obstruction and building lives of obedience into maturity.”
When you take every thought captive, what do you put in place of the fleshly thoughts/desires that try to assault your mind? Do you know what the truth is? Do you use your weapon of the Word, your Sword of the Spirit to continually re-focus your mind back to the Lord? It’s time to ask ourselves hard questions and honestly evaluate, answer, and change where necessary.
C. S. Lewis said, “If there lurks in most modern minds the notion that to desire our own good and earnestly to hope for the enjoyment of it is a bad thing, I submit that this notion has crept in from Kant and the Stoics and is no part of the Christian faith. Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that our Lord finds our desires, not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.” (